When we’re experiencing a period of growth or change on our path, it’s easy to compare ourselves to others.
“Why can’t I do what she does?”
“What am I doing wrong?”
And I get it. It’s easy to do (and it’s made so much easier with social media). But that comparison game serves no one, least of all you.
Because everyone is on their own path.
I know, we’ve all heard this over and over again but there’s a reason for that.
Because it’s a powerful truth.
Your Soul Journey
Your path and how you get to where you want to be will be different to the girl who comes after you and hers will be different to the girl who comes after her. It’s because our paths are built by the stones of our soul journey. It comes from our dips and peaks, pauses and sprints, yearning and knowings.
But how do we find that path?
How do we know what we’re doing is what we’re meant to do?
This is something that comes up a lot in my conversations with my clients, especially when we’re discussing our soul journey. I firmly believe each of us has a purpose in this life. Perhaps you’re meant to lead. Perhaps you’re meant to create space for others to lead. Whatever that journey looks like for you, it all starts with one thing.
We need to figure out who we are and the first step to find that is discovering and uncovering your guiding light and energy. Your vibe is strong, consistent and most importantly, aligned – and that’s the secret sauce.
Attempting to emulate those you admire is often an energetic mismatch for your most authentic self.
Uncovering Your Vibe
Finding your vibe might sound complicated but here are a couple of ways you can begin the path of discovering it
1. Be Curious
Tune in and be exceptionally curious to the energetic and emotional responses you have to your own life. When you feel something light you up, pay attention to it and explore why. What did you love about it? How did it feel in your body? Similarly, notice the opposite- when something dims your light. Creating that self-awareness of your emotions will allow you to really tune into the nuances that might otherwise go unnoticed. Our emotional responses teach us a lot about ourselves but too often, we ignore the signs and signals our body is telling us. By really allowing yourself to feel the responses, you will be able to learn the direction your soul needs to go.
2. Express Yourself
Find ways to continually express your most authentic self. In conversation, in clothing, in music, or artwork. When we are living in our most authentic self, we allow our true light to brighten, illuminating the way for us. Invite those unexpressed parts of yourself out of the shadows. However, it looks for you- do it and do it often.
3. Resist Labeling Yourself
Would it surprise you to realize that the person who is stopping you from being truly you, is you?
“I can’t do that.”
“I’m not that person.”
“My problem is…”
To find your true path, you need to back away from that notion of labeling yourself and reframe it to “What if?”.
What if I could learn to ski?
What if I wrote the book?
What if I quit my job and traveled the world?
Resisting those labels will empower your freedom and allow you to explore otherwise ignored ideas.
Your vibe is your calling card for everything you desire which is why it’s so worthy of your attention and intention. Start there and everything else you are meant to have will follow. By turning inward to ourselves and exploring who we are, we open ourselves up to living our true soul journey.
You are meant to shine your light and you can’t do that if you’re standing in someone else’s shadow. Know that you are where you are meant to be because your path is already there, waiting for you.
All you need to do is trust that you will find it.